As a flight attendant we had strict protocol for what to do in every kind of emergency. Even if the plane was headed for a crash landing, there were so many procedures to execute, before and after the crash, that there was little room for worrying about personal survival.
Once you plan out your protocols for all possible scenarios in this pandemic, you can relax a bit. If something happens, you've already got the plan dialed in, so you can set it down until (and if) it's time to enact those plans.
Once you've had those discussions with the family (if Y -> We do X) and agreed on the procedures, it's time to settle in and reflect on this monumental historical moment. What does it mean for us individually and as a society? Is there a message in this hardship for us to hear?